It takes active listening to understand another person’s point of view.
Sometimes I tap my foot, impatiently waiting for them to finish. Then I pounce on the chance to make my point. All the while, I’m blocking out everything they said. When I’m actively listening, my mind is clear. I make space for new information. I reduce distractions. This allows me to really hear what someone is saying; and appreciate their point of view.
A common understanding is the bedrock of meaningful discussions. We are more likely to stay friends, and maintain respect, when we understand each other. We don’t have to agree, but at the end of the day we must be okay with disagreeing.